Road to nowhere or to happiness
How to understand that the chosen life path is wrong?
In the CIS countries it is traditionally assumed that it is the child’s mother who applies for a maternity leave. Under modern conditions, though, there may be a situation when it is the father who wants to take care of the baby, while the woman wishes to continue working. What is more, psychologists approve this practice. It is useful for all the family members, but how can a father get his child rearing leave?
This practice isn’t widely spread in Russia and some people aren’t even aware that a husband also has a lawful right to get a child rearing leave. However, it is true. And it is quite possible to get the leave. Truth to be told, the phrase “maternity leave” is only applicable to women. A man is unable to mother a child, so he isn’t entitled to a sick-leave for the last months of pregnancy and for recovery after childbirth ― that is what maternity leave implies. The common practice is to give mothers a two-month sick-leave after they leave a maternity hospital.
He will have to overcome a few bureaucratic hindrances, photo WEB
On the other hand, it’s quite possible for a man to get a child rearing leave. He will have to brace himself and overcome a few bureaucratic hindrances:
This set of papers is enough for a father to get a child rearing leave. You don’t have to worry that an employer can reject the application. As Article 256 of the Russian Labor Code states, a men (and any other family member as well) is entitled to do it. Naturally, a male on a child rearing leave will have exactly the same rights as a female. In other words, he won’t be sacked and he will receive an allowance while the term of the leave will be included into his record of service.
For a man, a child rearing leave will become a useful experience, photo WEB
For a man, a child rearing leave will become a useful experience. Moreover, the help to his wife will be immense. It is a well-known fact that women tend to suffer from postnatal depression. Daily child rearing, sleep deficiency, routine and lack of new experiences can further exacerbate this regrettable condition. Alternatively, if she leaves for work after a two-month sick-leave, she can overcome the condition easier.
In terms of family, there are several positive points of a man’s child rearing leave:
In the future, this “change” will foster the atmosphere of trust within the family – the man won’t be afraid of his child and the woman won’t turn into an exhausted housewife.
The most important things are willingness and mutual help, photo WEB
Naturally, our mental disposition requires some ponderous reasons for a man to stay at home with a child, while his wife earns money and feeds the family. The stereotype is opposite. But these reasons are easy to find:
The most important things are willingness and mutual help. Child rearing won’t bring inconveniences if you are willing to help each other and share the duties correctly. And it doesn’t matter who is on the legal leave. Love each other and your children!
Anastasia Angerer, Moscow, Russia